So where are some of those non-nudists coming from? At least the ones we hope may one day join our nude community. Maybe, the best starting point would first be to ask ourselves – Where did we come from?’ I really can not speak for anyone except for my wife Susanne and myself, but I wager our story is not quite different from a lot of other individuals. So with that in mind, I ‘ll share a little about where we came from.

Susanne and I came from a sexually silent fabric’ world. The topic of sexuality was nearly non existent in family discussions. We can’t blame the sexual silence in both our families on a generally shared anti-sex culture nope! Susanne grew up a continent and ocean away from me. She lived in a sexually liberal, non-religious, middle class family in the property of FKK (free body culture) Germany. I grew up in an ultra-conservative, religious, middle class family in rural Upstate New York, near Ithaca in the Finger Lakes. Unexpectedly, in neither home, liberal or conservative, was the word sex voiced in polite company.
Sex education in her family came in the form of a pill (the pill). In Germany, a girl was gently given the pill at puberty because it was supposed that sex is what you do. Whether she wanted it or no actual ordinary boyfriend would insist and it was her job to give it to him if she wanted a social life. Pleasing the boyfriend in this manner is peculiarly patriarchal for this kind of liberal family. What a superficial, oppressive view of sex merely give it but don’t forget the pill. That was of her sex education in the liberal German culture.
On the other hand, within my traditional family, all matters sex was simply anathema. One didn’t talk about sex other than the single obligatory birds and bees talk which was more confusing than helpful. It was assumed that healthy sex would only happen naturally once you were married. No importance of parents to speak or teach anything about it as the process of osmosis was presumed operative for sex education.

Silence was the lowest common denominator with respect to sexuality in both our cultures. Usually the most frightening, most controversial topics are the ones which don’t get talked about. Consequently, quiet, in just about everything, goes in conjunction with uncertainty, fear, misunderstanding and insecurity. When people are whispering behind your back, you do not understand what they’re saying and so it must be awful! Yup, the subject of sex isn’t any different. The worst thing parents of backgrounds can do in regards to sex is to remain silent. Most parents can not get past their own sexual and body acceptance hangups and as a result, they end up passing them on to their kids through the deafening sounds of sexual quiet.
Comprehending sexuality, having healthy body approval and ultimately healthy sexual relations is not a matter of liberal vs. conservative cultures both teams look equally scared of it. Real sexuality and relationships has to do with accurate body acceptance and unconditional love. It gets beyond the silly embarrassments. One has to be raw, true, nakedly exposed to instruct and find out about actual sexuality. This approach transcends superficial, social, political, or zealous spiritual alliances and / or lifestyles for example “conservative” or “liberal.”
Sex is one of the most bantered about matters, but the least understood. Behind all of society’s sexual noise is an astounding vacuum of significance. The quiet is maddening. For us, it interpreted into serious inhibitions that prevailed in our marriage for years.
Silence is a shroud of negative puzzle. It foments fear, guilt, shame and misinterpretation. It was not until we became naturists, got nude, accepted our bodies, our sexuality and that of others that we began to fully understand and discard those destructive inhibitions that had been holding us back for years. Discarding these inhibitions is a process. It is liberating. It is what allowed us to begin anew; the growth of a much richer, heavier fulfilling sexuality in our own relationship and finally a renewed union covenant. We fell in love again.
There are lots of people who are suffering from all kinds of inhibitions. Many have issues about their bodies, their sexuality, their insufficient freedom and fulfillment. They’re prisoners of these inhibitions stamped into them by sexual silence, negative sexual teaching and in some instances – sexual abuse. This happens despite and the abundantly available nudity and pornography in our culture now. There is apparently a massive vacuum of real love, real acceptance, actual kindness, and actual fulfilling sexuality.
Thus, when individuals consider trying naturism it is not quite as simple as simply getting nude. Their reality is like onion skins multi-layered. They understand something is lost, hidden under the layers, but they do not understand what. Against this emptiness, naturism actually symbolizes something different, something hopeful.